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It's rather widely accepted and acknowledged that we ladies of the universe have a tendency to over think things (some of the time / most of the time - select applicable & read on). We analyse small snippets of conversations for days and we wonder what was meant by that last text message. While thinking is absolutely a positive thing, over-thinking is not going to do you any favours. Here's why:

Situations are about perception, by running over a situation in your minds eye time and time again you are just strengthening your version of events and if you are feeling distressed about something, getting stuck on your negative perception of the situation is not going to help you move past it.

The phrase making a mountain out of a mole hill is particularly relevant when discussing the repercussions of over thinking. In over-analysing you allow yourself to be upset or anxious about a situation and if dwelled on the situation will become something bigger than it was ever meant to be. You are creating an emotional road block for yourself.

You can't undo what is done. But you can choose how to react to the circumstance. Rather than pondering tirelessly the events that have past, think about what it is you are uneasy about. Gain perspective and lose the negative emotions and with a clear mind formulate your disposition going forward. Are you getting stuck on something that is ultimately not a big issue?

See things for what they are. Simplify. Relax. No really, just relax.

By identifying the sorts of situations that cause you anxiety and see you pessimistically dwelling, you can take steps to giving yourself the slap yourself out of that self destructive emotional rut!

Think about why you get so uneasy around certain people or under certain circumstances. Are there certain types of situations that you find yourself replaying or reacting adversely in a way not proportionate to whatever it was taking place. Consider if the emotions you put yourself through are apt or are you putting a little too much weight into life? Consider the notion that you might just be over reacting, just a smidge, and consequently putting your head through an emotional marathon – and for what?

Step outside the situation and gain a little perspective. Can you break the cycle of anger you've got going on? Is your anxiety & stress habitual? Think about the person you WANT to be and acknowledge that negativity is stopping you from getting there. Recognize that some things were not said with whatever negative loading you placed upon them, maintain a sense of humour. Have fun with life and realise that taking it easy is an extraordinarily attractive quality. Radiate confidence in this new found relaxed state - realise how many opportunities and experiences you are setting yourself up to miss out on by shutting down emotionally and over analysing every word out of the mouths of those around you or over thinking each situation you encounter. Not everything has a hidden deeper meaning - some things in life truly are simple & meant to be enjoyed with a sunny disposition. So ladies- relax, smile, settle – be cool!


Alright, fess up, when do you find yourself getting all girly & emotional and over-thinking it just a touch?